What to do if you've never had a boyfriend?

[jessicavm04]

ok so I've never had a boyfriend...ummm not cause no ones likes me...is just that people that find me attractive...I dislike for one reason or another and then when i do like some is like i get so shy that i see the person and i dont even want to say hi!! (i know im so stupid) then when the person i dont like im so friendly....(clearly something is wrong with me) is just that when i find a person that i feel attractive to im afraid they wont like me... but anyways what to do on a date? u see i am not a person that talks a lot... i talk a lot with friends cause we have things in common or something to catch up on...but with a stranger i can never find something to talk about... so i've always had the hope of finding someone to be my friend first to get to know each other and then ask me out....but that's so hard!! most guys now a days just look for --- first if they like how u are in bed then they invest their time in knowing you....I completely hate this generation!! guys come up to me and dont even go past the first conversation wen --- comes up.... but im afraid is most of girls fault...boy now dont have to try and make a girl fall in love...they just go to the next one and the next and let them keep on coming... I had imagined live so differently... it just sucks...

[ssbbwloverinnv (deleted)]

` A big problem with our society today is too many people want instant gratification, --- being just one thing. We have instant everything now, why not sex? See something you like in the store? No problem, just whip out the credit card. Is it dark? Just flip the light switch on. Bored? Just turn on the TV. Hungry? Just go to Burger King. See a beautiful girl you like? Great, just proposition her for ---. Sadly, this kind of mentality has been instilled in the last few generations of people, and it only seems to be getting worse. Sometimes I wish I lived in some past century when this was not so, because I think it sucks, too. In the case of interpersonal relations, it seems no one wants to take the time the time to get to know someone and be friends with them before jumping into bed with them. If that's what you want, go pay for a prostitute. Hopefully, you don't think all guys are like this, because they're not. Some women can be just as bad, too. I guess it's just a sign of our times, but we have to be patient, and the right person will come along for all of us.

[jessicavm04]

`yes you got my point!! Is really sad isn't it? and no i still have the hope their good an mature guys out there... and I so agree their bad girls too I've seen it happen and i feel ashamed. I too wish i was born many many years ago where people had respect for each other and mainly for themselves. People now a days see --- as a game...then you end up with and unwanted child....ST-D's and so on.... I really admire single moms when a hard circumstance made her be so....but when mom's chose that....it really make me mad because i grew up with both parents and i lost my father when i was 13 and how much have i missed him! He left at a very important age in my life and then to imagine a kid growing up with out a family!! Just breaks my heart!

[hh1990 (deleted)]

`I completely agree with you both, everyone wants --- now and romance is dying. I prefer a larger lady and most of my ex's have been, and I was never in a rush to hit the bedroom - perhaps the exception to the rule but really I think I'm just the minority compared to the trend. However, it was only ever with my 1st girlfriend that things went slowly because neither of us had any experience and she was quite traditional. Since then, dating more modern girls and being slightly older I felt a pressure on dates to show ------ attraction as a complitment - it's so in your face with everyone else that not showing it feels like an insult. There are guys out there who will take things slow, but perhaps like me there are are out there willing to but going along with the norm of diving into bed when they still have every intention of a long term relationship - maybe don't be so hesistant and rely on quick judgement of character rather than building a relationship 1st?